On Manning Up, Part #1
Congratulations to Roosh, for manning up and trading in his pathetic life of freedom, pleasure and personal growth, for a more virtuous one of sacrifice, obedience and servitude.
Perhaps he was inspired by William Bennett, the latest to echo of a common refrain: Today’s young men need to Man Up:
“The data does not bode well for men. In 1970, men earned 60% of all college degrees. In 1980, the figure fell to 50%, by 2006 it was 43%. Women now surpass men in college degrees by almost three to two. Women’s earnings grew 44% in real dollars from 1970 to 2007, compared with 6% growth for men.
In 1950, 5% of men at the prime working age were unemployed. As of last year, 20% were not working, the highest ever recorded. Men still maintain a majority of the highest paid and most powerful occupations, but women are catching them and will soon be passing them if this trend continues.
The warning signs for men stretch far beyond their wallets. Men are more distant from a family or their children then they have ever been. The out-of-wedlock birthrate is more than 40% in America. In 1960, only 11% of children in the U.S. lived apart from their fathers. In 2010, that share had risen to 27%. Men are also less religious than ever before. According to Gallup polling, 39% of men reported attending church regularly in 2010, compared to 47% of women.
“Man’s response has been pathetic. Today, 18-to- 34-year-old men spend more time playing video games a day than 12-to- 17-year-old boys. While women are graduating college and finding good jobs, too many men are not going to work, not getting married and not raising families. Women are beginning to take the place of men in many ways. This has led some to ask: do we even need men?
The Founding Fathers believed, and the evidence still shows, that industriousness, marriage and religion are a very important basis for male empowerment and achievement. We may need to say to a number of our twenty-something men, “Get off the video games five hours a day, get yourself together, get a challenging job and get married.” It’s time for men to man up.”
Men in my generation have heard this message before. I expect we’ll be hearing it again. Why don’t we find a nice girl and get married? Why don’t we feel lucky to have a dull office job? Why do we insist on reading blogs like Freedom Twenty-Five, instead of The Good Mangina Project?
Here’s a hint: In his article, Bennett does not even attempt to answer the question that young men will naturally ask – What’s in it for us? Rule #1 of persuasion, seduction and sales is: Speak in terms of your target’s self-interest. Bennett and his cohorts have much to say about why Millennial men need to man up for the sake of society. They also imply that doing so will win us their approval. But that’s it. That’s the cookie we’re being offered, if we plug into the Matrix: A pat on the head from the Baby Boomers, and the warm glow of a job well done.
To everyone’s great surprise though, the men of our generation are not jumping at this offer.
A small but growing number of men have figured out that if we opt out of the conventional trappings of marriage, jobs, mortgages and mainstream media, a much better life is available to us.
Instead of working 70-hour weeks to pay off our student loans, mortgages, and retirement, we’re saving money to travel, starting online businesses, and negotiating remote work agreements.
Instead of marrying shrill, pudgy rapidly-aging North American women, we’re learning game, dating college-age girls and amassing flags.
Instead of buying into a pop culture that denigrates our masculinity, and following a mainstream media obsessed with the minutiae of politics and celebrity gossip, we’re tuning into The Manosphere and learning how to live better lives. The men who aren’t busy learning game are simply dropping out of the sexual marketplace and immersing themselves in virtual worlds. “To Michael!”
Personally, I’d rather take the first option: Do your homework, become a better man, kick ass at life and clean up with women. But I’d still take a life of celibacy and video games over getting married to something like this:
This is why the men of my generation are splitting into two camps: The globetrotting, freedom-seeking, pickup-artist playboys, and the video-game playing, porn-watching basement-dwellers. There are still a good number of cool guys in the middle who are opting for conventional careers and marriage, even though they have the potential to choose the playboy lifestyle. But every day a few more of them find their way to the Red Pill. The number of men willing to take on the necessary burdens of keeping our society afloat is decreasing, and the weight on the rest is getting heavier.
Simply, the men of my generation aren’t going to Man Up, because we have better options. The Baby Boomers and entitled women of the world would prefer if we spent our lives toiling to provide for the retirements of the former, and overwrought expectations of the latter. But we have other ideas.